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All You need is LOVE and a Great Wedding Celebrant

4/11/2019

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​All You Need Is Love -And A Great Celebrant!
I have had the privilege of being a Byron Bay celebrant for 12 years now and have performed
over 200 weddings and elopements.…and just like that fantastic Led Zeplin song that is “a
whole lot a lot of love” to have been privy to.
My inspiration for being a marriage celebrant rose from my affinity with love.
Love of love, love of people, love of connection, love of relationship, love of ceremony and
love of celebrating life in toto.
Oh yes ….and there was also the cringing hand over mouth experience of being a guest at a
friend’s wedding,that had all the magical ingredients except….
The scene was perfectly set for the wedding,the location was in a picturesque nook
overlooking the harbour in Sydney, the bride and groom were young groovers, and looked
breath takingly beautiful, standing there very much in love, with their favourite people in the
world gathered around them full of excitement and happiness for them.
Then the marriage celebrant arrived kafuffled in her hot crimson crepe suit and delivered the
ceremony as if talking to a kindergarten class whilst sporting a migraine, touting a lot of bla
bla bla that didn’t go anywhere near the radius of anyone’s heart.
People were disengaged, and a mixture of bored and perplexed…maybe even a wee bit
embarrassed.
I was quietly horrified for my friends, and took my own vows that day to become a
celebrant and to give marrying couples a ceremony that would be honouring, one that that
they would feel proud to be standing in, a ceremony that was in alignment with who they are
as individuals, that felt meaningful, joyful, sacred, interesting and engaging, that would open
people’s hearts, and no one present would ever yawn or think about a drink or checking their
phone.
Onwards and Upwards
Being a devotee of love, I view a wedding ceremony to be a very powerful moment in time,
and an opportunity that if nicely orchestrated can cast a lasting light on your path and journey
together.
So off I set on my journey to become not just a celebrant but a “great celebrant”!
Which is why I say
“All you need is love and a Great Celebrant”.
I did my training and began my career as a celebrant in Bondi and the Eastern suburbs before
migrating to the north coast, and becoming a Byron Bay Celebrant, which was fortunate as
Byron Bay happens to be a renowned wedding destination.
Many lovely couples from around Australia and the world, are drawn to get married in
Byron Bay because of the unique culture, spirit and beauty of this amazing place…and I find
the couples usually reflect those qualities in themselves….I can honestly say have never
encountered what people refer to as Bridezilla…in fact quite the contrare.

Part of the awesomeness of being a marriage celebrant, is that I get the privilege of meeting
and engaging with such a wide and wonderful array of couples in love.
I am honoured to say (and touched that my couples will testify) that in a very short space of
time we form a deep connection and sensitive bond …. (We are talking about their favourite
things, which is their love in all its glory, and each other.)
I feel gifted that I am able to create a platform of trust where a couple feel safe, open, and
comfortable enough to invite me into their heart space, so that we can translate and articulate

their individual love story, their dreams, intentions and quirkiness and create an awesome
wedding ceremony whereby they feel confident, represented relaxed and uplifted.
and when presented on their wedding day ….it sweetly rocks their world.
Shiney Lee Hensby -Byron Bay wedding Celebrant
http://www.byronbayweddingcelebrant.wedding/
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Pearls of Wisdom from a Byron Bay Wedding Celebrant - Writting Vows

3/21/2019

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As a Byron Bay celebrant who has performed over 200 weddings and elopements I have had the privilege and have been deeply touched and somewhat enlightened by hearing hundreds of bride and groom’s amazing vows to each other. 
For me a couple’s vows are at the very heart of a marriage ceremony, and well deserving of contemplation, time and some extra effort…. Confronting as it may seem for many people when you rise to the occasion, you will be deeply happy with yourself as well as gifting your partner…. heart to heart.
(my favourite saying to self in these times is “come on, get out of your comfort zone we are all over this!) 

On a funny note, throughout my years of being a marriage celebrant in Byron Bay, I would say that 40 percent of couples, when writing or speaking with me, refer to their vows as “Vowels” It’s True!! 
 It always makes me smile …I guess vows do contain 2 very significant vowels which are “I and You”!)
 
So back to VOWS
Let’s start with some dictionary definitions of vows.
  1. "To promise solemnly, pledge, dedicate, vow.
  2.  To make a determined decision, or to promise something with Intention
  3. To declare one’s intention to, be, act, or uphold something that has been decided.
  4. To Invoke the divine
 
With this in mind, it is an essential part of your personal vows, that they contain a promise, (or many promises) and given the power of word and intention, that promise is best to be realistic and achievable…there are plenty of noble things to promise and strive for…something cheeky thrown in as well can be a moment of joy amongst the tears.
 
When a couple ask me about writing their own vows the most common questions are:
  1.  Is there something I have to say?
  2. How long should they be?
  3. Should they be different to my partners?
  4. Should I share them with My partner?
  5. When should I write them?
 
To answer those questions briefly- there are 2 parts to the vows.

  1.The first part is the compulsory part of the vows, which is a legal requirement and is where you are required to repeat
  I call apon the people here present 
  To witness that I (your full name)
  Take you (your partners full name)
  To be my lawful (wedded wife, husband, spouse)
    
 2.The second part is Where you are invited to make your own personal vows 
(it is often added here “and to speak in good faith” which refers to the solemness and sacredness of what you are about to say)
The addition of a couple’s “Personal vows” is something that has only been traditionally introduced in the mid 19thcentury. 
I read something which I found interesting which was “In the 1960s and 1970s, couples often wrote their own vows as a way of rebelling against their parent’s marriages, which many brides and grooms then viewed as unequal, unexamined and uncool”. 
It’s great to see the progression we have made as a society from those days to now -where mutual respect and equality is strived for ….no more love, honour and obey! Just love and honour…Bring it on!
 
In many ways “personal vows” have put the power- fate -destiny, and more poignantly the responsibility of a couple’s relationship in their own hands, rather than being dictated by a religious sense of God being in control.
 
I will say -Though I am not religious…. I do have my own spiritual beliefs about “God”- Call it “the universal Life force”  “the intelligent universe” the “omni present” the  ‘infinite spirit”   “Divine Love”…and countless other descriptions and concepts of the great mystery(it’s a mindboggling  thing to define ) …ANYWAY  I would like to express  that I do believe in “Co-Creation” and that some things are “written in the stars”, or are “fated” ..but ultimately it is our responsibility, our choices, our  intentions and actions, that flavour, define and shape the journey and the outcome of our relationships….just saying !   
 
So back to vows and the questions.
Other than what we touched on above, there are no rules.
Your vows can be long or short, traditional - uniquely created, or something in-between, 
They can be funny or serious, or a mix up, you can sing them write a poem, make them up on the spot, or both plan to say the same vows… you get what I am saying- go for it! 
 
Some people like to be well organised and write their own vows months in advance, so they can relax. Others work off the concept that Diamonds are formed under pressure and leave it till the last moment, and there are those (though not many) that choose to say them off the cuff. I have been super impressed and at other times, though I love the bravery and edginess it displays,  holding my breath and almost cringing from this option when it doesn’t roll, still it’s up to you, and as your celebrant I absolutely respect a person’s choice as to what they wish to do, and fully support them in it. 
 
Your vows are deeply personal words written and delivered in your own style that will uniquely express your heart, your love story, your personality, your intentions, your quirks, and your relationship.
And when you have a desire to keep it simple and easy that’s also great…no pressure.
I am forever being blown away at the depth the love and the emotional intelligence that people access and articulate in their vows, and there has not been may times that I don’t tear up…Truly powerful moments that makes ones heart open.
 
Part 2 of this blog will give some tips for creating great vows, and points to embrace and avoid!
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Thinking Of Eloping ? You will need a Byron Bay Wedding Celebrant.

2/5/2019

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Thinking Of Eloping In Byron Bay - Shiney Lee Hensby

Byron Bay is a premier wedding destination and as a Byron Bay Celebrant I have been fortunate to facilitate wonderful elopements for many couples from all over the world.
 
Elopements are no longer seen in the way they used to be, and are a fun, economical, personal and intimate alternative to a typical wedding…..not to mention“ A fabulous way to celebrate love".
There are many reasons a couple may choose to elope.
 
Eloping can be simple, practical, and short and sweet, or something that is  an elaborately detailed romantic adventure.
Another great benefit of Eloping is it’s a "no drama" way to formalise your marriage, that is private with no controversies, or compromises, ultimately representing who you are as individuals.
There are a myriad of reasons a couple may choose to elope.                                                
For some couples, the concept of a traditional wedding simply isn't a good fit, and they would rather to do it their own way.         
What is paramount being that as a couple you follow your own wishes, and whatever groove makes you happy. 

Budget- One key reason a couple chooses to elope is financial.  Some people don't care to, or simply don't have, the finances to spend on a larger scale wedding.
 Some choose to allocate the money that a more lavish wedding would cost, on a deposit for a home, a honeymoon in Byron Bay or maybe traveling.
Aside from the appeal of lower cost and chilled planning, an elopement  means escaping any expectations or wedding traditions that may not be in alignment with the couple’s circumstances or personal preferences.


Blended Families -Couples that have been previously married, or have children from previous relationships can sometimes prefer the low pressure, and moderate spotlight of an  elopement. I have heard couples say they felt it was less confronting for the children and also more inclusive. There are some lovely and fun ceremony rituals that include the children marking the blending of family.


Stress- For some couples planning a wedding can be time consuming and often stressy, which can potentially cloud the occasion and detract from why you’re there in the first place – LOVE.


Eloping in Byron Bay requires very little planning yet encompasses the true essence of marriage – “declaring your love & celebrating the good fortune that you have to have found each other!” Oh, and it’s a great excuse to lush out!
Privacy – For some bride or grooms the thought of speaking in front of a gathering of people can feel overwhelming and even terrifying. Eloping alleviates that pressure and allows you to relax and drop into the magic and the joy of marrying your big love, with all the lush and lovely elements present …minus the crowd.


Location- Some couples opt for using the money that they would have been spent on a more lavish wedding, on a combined “elopement-honeymoon” - in an exotic or lush paradise such as our “beautiful Byron Bay”.  In doing so, the process of getting married becomes an awesome loved up holiday, trimmed with all the special and photo perfect memories, (like others who have traditional weddings put in picture frames and albums.... and Instagram !).


Capturing the moment- It has become popular for couples to have the ceremony filmed with a videographer, so they are able to share it in a surprise party celebration with their loved ones when they are home. You can even dress up as you did on your wedding day and get to wear that dress again!
So lovelies, there are just a few great reasons to Elope!
 
Wishing you much love on your adventure !
Shiney Lee Hensby
 
www.byronbayweddingcelebrant.wedding
[email protected]
 

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